As I became vulnerable by sharing my story on social media, I was surprised with the avalanche of private messages that people sent me revealing their life ordeals and soliciting my thoughts on them. I am very honored to be trusted with such deeply personal problems.
Since we live in the digital era where information is readily available in one click, I realized that what people crave for nowadays are listening ears and a safe place to release their internal pain, fears, doubts and suffering.
I received all sorts of dilemmas, issues, concerns and stories related to health, relationships, careers, self-esteem and success. But what got to my attention are those who asked me...
"How do I deal with someone who doesn't treat me well emotionally and psychologically?"
I'm actually surprised that this is even an issue because the fact that it's already acknowledged that this person is treating you bad, then why the hell does he/she still have your permission to be in your life?
But then again, I don't know the whole story. Perhaps, circumstances such as marriage, workplace or something like it brought you together and it's impossible to break free just like that. But still! I find it disturbing that people tolerate this. It doesn't matter if it's your spouse, boss, colleague, room mate, sibling or parent.
The puzzling question is why are you allowing this person to treat you horribly? I believe that you train others how to treat you. You're the one who has to set limits and protect yourself from the shit that people may throw at your direction. You will only get the bad treatment if you let it. So again, the question is, WHY ARE YOU ALLOWING IT?
Imagine yourself as your own child. As a parent, would you allow this person to even come near your kid? If your answer is no, then why is it okay then if it was you being the psychological and emotional punching bag?
If you're reading this and you're in the same crappy situation, I highly suggest that you dig deep within yourself and re-evaluate your self-worth. Because a person who knows his/her true value will not place him/herself in a position to be a target of disrespect and mental abuse.
So please do yourself a huge favor and run as far away as you can from this psychological abuser so that you can protect yourself from further internal sabotage. Do some inner soul work and remind yourself that you are a child of the universe that is given the amazing gift of life. Therefore, you are worth loving and caring for.
And if it's an unavoidable scenario that you have to deal with this person on a regular basis, learn how to firmly vocalize your boundaries. Express that their actions/words are hurtful and damaging to your well-being and that it's something you will not tolerate. If they refuse to listen and cooperate, then learn how to tune them out, distance yourself from them as much as possible and constantly affirm to yourself that how they treat you is a reflection of their soul, not yours. So your job is to shield your pure heart and not let their toxicity pollute you.
Remember, what you put up with, you end up with. You only get what you tolerate. So keep that self-worth in constant check, safeguard your well-being with all your might and keep in mind that you are far too precious and special to accommodate such ill-mannered behavior. Life is too damn short to settle for shitty treatment. You deserve the best. And much more. I'm rooting for you.
Winning With You,